Monday, September 12, 2005

Fast

Busy today. Freakline tomorrow, some hand job / blow job talk Wednesday. In the mean time, ask me a question, tell me what I should do with my life, look at some of my links, or just make a crane out of fax paper.

13 comments:

DJ said...

I just wrote you a mini novel under the orig post.

madness said...

Hey,

If a guy says he's bi but has a preference for guys (even though he has never been with either) does that make him gay? And if his reason for not being in a realtionship with me is because he needs to sort his sex stuff out and doesnt want to hurt me....should I just run? I really cant imagine life without him though.

You did say we could ask anything...
Thanks.

Kartar said...

Don't run but be prepared to be very, very patient and understanding. Also be prepared to get screwed around and NOT in a good way.

These situations are never easy to resolve and at the end of them you can still get the "I love you but I am straight/gay/like goldfish and whilst I want to be your friend I don't want a relationship with you..."

I'd guard your feelings a little (though it sounds like it might be a little too late for late) and try to protect yourself from getting seriously hurt. If it is too late then I guess the only advice I can offer is that if you are going to wait you need to make sure you set yourself a little bit of a deadline - not an ultimatum to the guy - but a point at which you say - "Enough - no more - I got to get out of here before it kills me." And stick to the deadline. If something doesn't work after sufficient time - it's probably not going to.

P.S. I rarely took/take my own advice and often get monumentally hurt - so I know of that which I speak.

P.P.S. Sorry Desci - feel free to jump in and offer advice too - it is your weblog and madness did ask you. :)

Ruby said...

Kartar, that is EXACTLY the advice I would have given, and EXACTLY the advice I would ignore, resulting in the monumentally broken heart that you speak of! Isn't if funny how we refuse to take our own advice?

madness said...

Thanks guys. It's really the deadline bit that I'm having trouble with. I guess its hard to admit defeat when something is really important to you. I've already prepared myself to get hurt.

xo

Hambo said...
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Hambo said...

Madness...

I say hurl. If you blow chunks and he comes back, he's yours. If you spew and he bolts, then it was never meant to be.

The Hack said...

Hambo, you're deep.

madness said...

So Hambo,

If he holds my hair back, he's a keeper?

Tempest said...

madness.

I think your boy is a mary.

Lets face it. If he do'nt wanna do the boogie with you.....

Not that theres anything wrong with that.

Desci said...

Madness - take heed of the excellent advise here!

I think he's a confused boy, and you really, really need to take a step back. It's a bad place to be. He needs time to work stuff out, even have relationships or flings with guys. Give him a couple of years to work himself out. If it hurts to much to stay friends, maybe cool it for awhile.

In the mean time, get out there and meet some guys who are less hassle.

Hambo said...

Guys like me

Desci said...

Yeah, guys like him.